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Climbing with partner has +ly affected my climbing

28%

" " -ly affected my climbing

'' '' -ly affected my climbing but it's worth it

My partner and I chose to climb apart

" " have a balance of climbing together and apart

13%

My partner doesn't climb

19%

No body loves me, everybody hates me, think I'll..

24%

Topic Date User

Sexually transmitted climbing performance 26-Sep-2005 At 2:00:44 PM kerroxapithecus

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I guess if your whole world revolves around climbing and you want to have a love interest they will probably need to climb with you whether or not they and/or you like it. Otherwise how would you conduct any kind of relationship? On the other hand if you value a more balanced life you may ask how is the climbing affecting our relationship? rather than the other way around. Climbing is very intense and those climbing together spend lots of time thinking about it, talking about it, travelling to it, training for it and doing it. I think I'd find it a bit too stifling to be honest. What about a partnership consisting of 2 individuals?

But then if 2 people meet who happen to have a passion for one particular thing it is probably a great thing. However too many times one follows the other and does something they're not really into and I don't think that kind of thing could last and you may find bitterness at the end where someone actually gave up something of themselves to do something that was really someone else's dream and the other person holding themselves back from doing something bigger and better or in a different way (the lost climbing potential) to what is possible within the limitations of the combined love/climbing partnership....especially if it's a lengthy relationship. Imagine feeling that you've lost 10 years of your life. It happens!

I say climb with your partner if you are both really genuinely into it but don't make it your entire life together unless you are both on the exact same path with the climbing thing. I suppose some relationships will last and the partners will need to work out ways that the climbing fits in with some of the other enriching life experiences that pop out later. If the whole thing was about climbing then what happens when there's not much time for it later as the two get older? (and yes, it does happen!) Where's the basis for the partnership then?

I know some of you are a bit young for that kind of thinking at the moment but just some thoughts from an old lady....