|So, it might be that there just arenít that many people on Chockstone anymore, but Iím a bit surprised by the silence on this one. So Iím going to break it.
John, Iím not on FB, so I havenít seen what Damien said to upset you. Heís really good at getting under a personís skin Ė he does it for fun, and yeah, itís easy to explode in reaction to his condescending and superior (and, objectively, often quite clever and funny) posts, especially if youíre the target.
But your response is so far outside the bounds of acceptable human interaction that youíve humiliated yourself, and disgusted those of us who saw it. Threats of violence, threats of sexual assault, and homophobic slurs are not consistent with the values of the climbing community (and yes, Iím actually quite comfortable speaking for the entire climbing community on that one).
I would suggest you need to examine why your reaction was what it was. Do you actually think that those kind of threats and slurs are acceptable? Are you going to dismiss it as Ďlocker room talkí, or Ďprivate correspondenceí? Do you understand why Iím saying those kind of comments are unacceptable, even if you didnít mean them? And why people would be so offended, regardless of whether they were the target or subject of anything contained within?
You need to find a new vocabulary to express your anger and hurt. Youíre an adult, with a decent education, and youíre spewing hate and threats like a schoolyard bully in the Ď80ís or the insane clown in the White House.
People like you and me and Damien, as beneficiaries of white male middle class privilege, have more influence and can effect more change than most people in this world; and we all make the world the way it is. You can choose to add to the negativity by projecting anger and hate and violence, or you can try to fight against that by displaying respect, civility, and compassion. Itís not always easy, I know, and you canít always stop people from upsetting you, but you can control how you react.